When they unite and go hand in hand, they become creators.#BalanceforBetter

Man and woman are complementary to each other. When they unite and go hand in hand, they become creators.

Women till today was denied facilities of education, compelled to marry before leaving childhood, forced to maternity even before leaving school, kept under subjection during marriage and forced to live a life of misery during widowhood. More so many of them get killed even before they come out of their mother’s womb.

Women are treated like lesser human beings. They are marginalized, sidelined, humiliated, and kept away from all sources of power and freedom.

Most women do not have access to higher education. Even the parents believe that they are destined to end up in the kitchen.

Most women cannot claim equal rights to their ancestral property. Most women do not have any role in decision making. Not in their state. Not in their village. Not in their family.

Most women are not paid well though they are made to toil for hours like slaves. They are not given any top jobs.

When women are not paid well, fifty percent of the population is not paid well. When women are disrespected, humiliated or exploited, a major percentage of the world population is disrespected, humiliated or exploited. And the entire human race will lag behind, unable to realise its true potential.

That’s why we speak about empowering women – for a better tomorrow, for a better humanity.

Education is the key to women empowerment. If a girl is educated, she will have confidence. She will have employable skills. Employment will lead her to financial independence. Entrepreneurship will make her stronger and daring to take up new challenges.

As Malala Wesafzai, the Nobel Peace Prize winner says, “One child, one teacher, one book, and one pen can change the world.” And nowhere is it truer as in the case of women.

They – I mean, the educated women – will become leaders with the right mindset, making the right decisions at the right time. When women are put at the helm of affairs, conflict has an unnatural way of decreasing. As mothers, they care. They care about the future generations. They care about this earth. If a male leader takes, we where we want to be, a female leader takes we where we ought to be.

That’s why in the Manusmriti, which in ancient India, was considered a divine code of conduct, it is said, “Yatra naryastu pujyante ramante tatra Devata, yatraitaastu na pujyante sarvaastatrafalaah kriyaah”

Where women are respected, there the gods make their home; where they are not respected, all human action remain unproductive.

If empowered, the hand that rocks the cradle can surely rule the world; complementing, contributing, creating a better tomorrow for everyone.

What would our life be like if we learned how to respect our body as though it were a precious creation—as valuable as a beloved friend? What if we no longer lived in fear of germs or cancer? What would happen if we truly trusted our body’s messages?

Taking Care of self!

One of the biggest challenges’ women face is learning how to care for themselves while caring for others. It requires a delicate balance between what often feels like polar opposites. Good self-care is the single most important aspect of our health, period. The programming of self-sacrifice leads ultimately to health-destroying sentiments, such as guilt, resentment, anger, and other emotions linked to high levels of stress hormones.

How well we care for ourselves as adult women is determined in part by how well our mothers cared for us (and themselves). Ultimately, however, it’s our responsibility to learn how to optimally care for ourselves regardless of what happened (or didn’t) with our mothers. We refine this process throughout our entire lives.

Step 1. Enter into the stream of healing energy regularly.

Our body is connected to a healing stream of energy “that we can absorb STRESS at will. All we need to do is be aware of it and be open to receive it! This is the basis for the healing power of prayer. My favorite prayer service is Silent Unity. Silent Unity has volunteers who will pray with we and then pray continuously for 30 days.

Step 2. Know that we are our own best mother.

Let’s treat ourselves like an ideal mother. by talking to ourselves in a wonderful, nurturing way and providing for ourselves that which we wish we had received from our own mother. For example, say to ourselves, “I see that we’re tired. Why don’t we lie down and take a nice nap. When we get up, we’ll have a nice cup of hot tea” or “I see that we need a break. How about a nice hot bath and a good book?” We get the picture.

Step 3. Do something pleasurable each and every day.

Taking time for pleasure and fun decreases the stress hormones cortisol and adrenalin, which, over time, are responsible for heart disease, cancer, and most chronic diseases such as arthritis and high blood pressure. Plus, when we take time for enjoyment, we’ll be able to approach arduous tasks with more energy and a better outlook.

Step 4. Breathe deeply and fully on a regular basis.

Breathing in fully through our nose instantly engages the rest and restore parasympathetic nervous system and helps the body metabolize stress hormones. Put Post-it notes on our phone, our computer, and our bathroom mirror. Write BREATHE in beautiful letters that uplift and remind we to breathe fully.

Step 5. Get support for self-care.

Self-care is best care. Be knowledgeable about your health conditions that may make you sick. Apart from Diabetes and hypertension, Malignancy in a serious condition which is a great threat for women. Some of the cancers that most often affect women are breast, cervical, endometrial, lung, colon, skin, and ovarian cancers. Knowing about these cancers and what you can do to help prevent them or find them early (when they are small and easier to treat) may help save your life.

Breast cancer is the most common cancer that women may face in their lifetime. It can occur at any age, but the risk goes up as you get older. Because of certain factors, some women may have a greater chance of having breast cancer than others. But every woman should know about breast cancer and what can be done about it. Self-examination of breast can detect it early.

Cervical cancer can affect any woman who is or has been sexually active. It occurs in women who have had the human papilloma virus (HPV). This virus is passed during sex. Cervical cancer is also more likely in women who smoke, have HIV or AIDS, have poor nutrition, and who do not get regular Pap tests.

A Pap test can find changes in the cervix that can be treated before they become cancer. The Pap test is also very good at finding cervical cancer early, when it can often be cured. The American Cancer Society recommends the following:

Cervical cancer testing should start at age 21. Women under age 21 should not be tested.

Women between ages 21 and 29 should have a Pap test done every 3 years. There’s also a test called the HPV test. HPV testing should not be used in this age group unless it’s needed after an abnormal Pap test result.

Women between the ages of 30 and 65 should have a Pap test plus an HPV test (called “co-testing”) done every 5 years. This is the preferred approach, but it’s OK to have a Pap test alone every 3 years.

Women over age 65 who have had regular cervical cancer testing in the past 10 years with normal results should not be tested for cervical cancer. Once testing is stopped, it should not be started again. Women with a history of a serious cervical pre-cancer should continue to be tested for at least 20 years after that diagnosis, even if testing continues past age 65.

A woman who has had a total hysterectomy (removal of her uterus and her cervix) for reasons not related to cervical cancer and who has no history of cervical cancer or serious pre-cancer should not be tested.

A woman who has been vaccinated against HPV should still follow the screening recommendations for her age group.

Some women – because of their history – may need to be tested more often. They should talk to a health care provider about their history.

6. Use the incredible power of “NO”.

When someone asks you to do something we don’t really want to do, say NO! This is especially important if saying “no” makes us feel guilty or unworthy. In most cases this means we’re letting the needs of others overshadow our own. Only we know how much we can handle without over-committing. Over time, we’ll strengthen our “no” muscle and also attract friends who support our need to set healthy boundaries. Remember, saying “no” to someone else usually means saying “yes” to yourself!

Step 7 Don’t forget to comply Doctor’s Orders.